Good question. Yes, I specifically meant men, because people are more willing to see an individual man as an exception (because somehow society programs us to see men as an in-group even for people who aren't men), so generalisations about men cause harm less often.

(I do think it would be better to always be precise, but I think complaining about the 'unmarked' majority is more ok in a way other generalisations aren't.)

Although, I'm not sure I have everything right, I'm open to hear counter-arguments if they're not dismissive.

(I might point to exceptions like "men are bad caregivers" which do cause harm, or "men can't do housework/relationship work/etc" which are bad for non-men as much as men, although I've also heard emphatic arguments that there shouldn't be exceptions.)