Very cool, if true

I think it is probably easier for non-autistic people to change the way they interact when interacting with an autistic person but doing so is a rare event and the downside of it going wrong seems to sit with the autistic person.

Yeah. Some of that is that autistic people and non-autistic people can't imagine being in the other's shoes. And not-autistic people tend to look at the parts they think should be there and tell the autistic people that they're broken.

This is a huge part of ableism generally - for example, blind people just live their lives, not-blind people find themselves pitying them.